How to Understand and Manage A Timid Personality

To deal with some who is timid, you need not be hesitant. Some will appear shy and have low confidence or self esteem, whereas others can be very assertive. You'll have to determine which side they fall on by listening attentively to what they say and what they don't reveal. Here are the best ways on How to Understand and Manage A Timid Personality in a subtle manner and with confidence.

At work

At work there are two main things that is necessary of a team which is the effectiveness and efficiency of the work being done. For this to happen, there needs to be a team that operates in an optimum level whether you are the boss or co-worker. This can be challenging if team members don’t understand each other or fail to help one another and work together.

Use these steps to help you manage a timid colleague. This list covers both what not to do, as well as what things to do when dealing with a more timid colleague.

What to do

1. Give words of encouragement

2. Offer how you can help them

3. Suggest workshops that help build confidence, trust and exposure to public speak such as the one offered by SUKA Studio.

4. Be patient and listen more

5. Support them however you can in a positive way

6. Let them know when they do a good job

7. Reward them for what they do well at. Even a thank you or recognition within the team goes a long way.

8. Suggest ways to help them or their problems

9. Some don’t know they need to improve and crawl out of their shell until they see different. Try to be the person who shows them how confidence and high self esteem can take them to better places.

What not to do

1. Do not criticise them, especially on minor mistakes

2. Do not be impatient with their response particularly in speech

3. Do not show you are not interested in what they have to say

4. Do not kick them when they are down

5. Do not talk badly about them directly to them or to other colleagues

6. Do not try to push them too hard as they might react negatively. People will change if they want to.

At home

How to deal with someone, could be someone at home or you are in a relationship with, who is timid can be taught with just a few simple but effective ways.

This can be a challenge. Some people get really anxious when they're in a new situation, or even around new people. If you know that's the case, here are a few tips on how to deal with someone who is timid. Since you are personally involved and related to the person you need to take a deeper dive in ways on how to deal with them. Here are a few effective tips.

What to do

1. Take a deep breath and relax

2. Take some time to think about how you want to deal with your timid person.

3. Think about how you're feeling and what his or her feelings might be.

4. Plan ahead how you will react so you can use the least amount of force possible for whatever you need the other person to do.

5. When dealing with a timid person, you may have to think differently and take some time to understand the person.

6. Always consider their feelings and be patient when dealing with someone who is timid.

7. The best way to deal with a timid person is kindness.

8. Arrange for him or her to be included in activities

9. Listen carefully when he or she talks.

10. You can also help by asking questions

11. Give praises

12. Be clear about expectations.

10. Support them however you can in a positive way

11. Let them know when they do something thoughtful for you.

12. Offer how you can help them

13. Suggest workshops that help build confidence, trust and exposure to public speak such as the one offered by SUKA Studio.

14. Suggest ways to help them or their problems

15. Some don’t know they need to improve and crawl out of their shell until they see different. Try to be the person who shows them how confidence and high self esteem can take them to better places.

What not to do

1. Do not criticise them, especially on minor mistakes such as not taking the trash out or doing the dishes. This can be very frustrating but if you keep picking on their mistakes, you are only making their personal self esteem lower. If there needs to be a discussion on your frustration, make sure it is a bigger issue that needs to be solved. Leaving dishes or trash could be a mere human mistake on a day or 2.

2. Do not be impatient with their response particularly in speech. Sometimes we get so busy with life that we forget to take a back seat and listen to our family or partners. Try to be patient and allocate or prioritise time for your loved ones.

3. Do not show you are not interested in what they have to say

4. Do not kick them when they are down

5. Do not talk badly about them directly to them or to other colleagues

6. Do not try to push them too hard as they might react negatively. People will change if they want to.