Being The Opposite Of Timid

Some of us think we are timid naturally and some of us think we are just born to be bold, forthcoming, fearless, confident and brazen. Usually it is the characters of the second child. Some refer to it as the ‘second child syndrome’ which is usually caused by watching the eldest sibling being timid and reserved. Being the opposite of timid is something learnt, not born with.

Bold, forthcoming, fearless, confident, and brazen. Saying and doing what you feel needs to be said and done as loudly as you can. Is that something you wish you were but are not?

How do you know you are confident - the opposite of timid

There are those who have high self esteem and confidence and those who are really good at pretending. Just because someone looks very confident, that does not necessarily mean they feel confident but still they try not to be timid.

Peer pressure is real and alot of today’s issues revolve around following popular trends and pleasing society. This can partly be thanks to social media practices like putting our every movement out online to gauge the likes and comments of our followers. With this, our self esteem and confidence has become quite reliant on others' perspectives of us.

One of the ways to measure our confidence is how we carry conversations with others, how we feel when we receive negative feedback and how we react to them.

For example, if you are a writer and you are confident in your work, if people tell you how bad they find your piece of work, check if:

1. Your feelings are hurt

2. You can understand their constructive feedback (even though it is negative)

3. You react defensively

We are humans, and our feelings get hurt when we put in hard work and people don’t appreciate it. But it takes confidence to withstand the storm. Confidence is what builds us and also what keeps us afloat.

How bad is it being timid?

It is easier to mould and improve confidence in children than it is in adults. If you are a timid person upto your adulthood, it is something you learnt to cope and live with. We are here to help you and tell you, being timid is not a healthy way of living. Why is it not healthy? It is more of a concern of the mind than anything else. When you are timid, you can’t seem to do much for yourself.

In the most general sense, the major risks of remaining timid are:

1. A fear of defending yourself during conflicts

2. A fear of presenting and defending your ideas

3. A fear of meeting new people and trying new things

It is a real shame because this world has so much to offer and you deserve the best from it. You can never know how far in life you can go, your potential, until you believe in yourself.