Parenting Skills List You Need to Know

As parents, we all want one thing for our children; genuine happiness. But along with this we also want desirable characteristics like generosity, kindness, patience. How can we do our best to help mould our children into becoming decent human beings?

Here are Parenting Skills List you need to know.

What we want and our own personal dreams for ourselves should NOT be put onto our children.
Remember, wants and dreams are from personal experiences. Our children did not grow up in the same household and environment as we did so their thought processes are different from ours and we have to accept that. Be open to what your children want and dream for their own lives.
Find out what they want and try to be a support system for them.
If they don’t know what they want yet, that’s okay too. The last thing you want to do is be a barrier to happiness of your child by telling them what will make them happy.
Listen more to your children as they grow to learn and experience new things.
Ask often what they thought of it and how they feel. Never ever force a child to do something they don’t want EXCEPT for medical reasons.
Have lots of patience.
If you feel yourself getting upset, frustrated or angry, stay seated or lay down for 15 minutes, or take a walk. Do NOT react hastily because it could be damaging to the child and you will be left feeling guilty. Children do not understand their own feelings and don’t know much about even their own thoughts, so you need to be a good example and go with the flow sometimes.
Don’t be a perfectionist.
So what if your child eats messy or if your child doesn’t know how to write letters at 3 years old? Is it the end of the world? No. It is their learning process.
For example, some parents are very particular on cleanliness while the child is eating and creates a picky eater for the child. While they were learning to eat citrus fruits, the parent was busy forcing them to eat it. This can create unwanted habits as the child learns to not enjoy eating citrus fruits. Allow the child some time to taste and experience the texture of the fruit before you rush them.
Be proactive and join the kids in activities whether it is to kick around with a football or colouring.
Kids love to learn and do things with their loved ones. In group work, they can also learn sharing. Being a proactive parent makes you a supportive and loving role model to the child. It motivates them to do more.
Be present when you are around them.
Keep away from your phone or TV. Allocate time everyday with them. If you are on a business trip and physically away, make it a point everyday for a call or video-call. In this time and age, there is no excuse for not communicating and being present.
Always communicate with Your Child.
Think of how you speak with them and what you say. Always ask how they feel, what they think and ask for their input. This encourages open communication and allows you as the parent to know what your child is thinking and what they are going through. This will also help with how you can handle, support and guide them.
Create a pattern, have a structure for your kids.
What is acceptable, wrong and right. Create simple but consistent consequences. For example, every morning when you wake up, brush your teeth and take a shower. After, put your dirty laundry in the dirty laundry basket. No TV time until 1 house chore or classwork is done. If the child is to read 1 page of a book everyday, don’t change that direction. Stick to it and the child can understand and accept it.
Create excitement.
Kids in general feed off of excitement so create a safe yet interesting environment. Bored kids are likely to misbehave and get distracted. If you can, create a corner or a room filled with toys and play books for the children to have something to do other than watch TV and play games on their phones.
Have a positive outlook on learning.
If a child approaches you for help or a chat, they're ready to learn and this is the best thing that can happen to a parent. When your child is volunteering to learn. So be ready and open to teaching.
Have realistic expectations.
Set targets for the child’s growth and try your best to reach it. Whether it is getting them to count to ten, or to bathe and brush their teeth by themselves, allow the skills to develop in stages.
Take care of yourself as a parent.
You know how a precautionary video is played before a flight in the airplane and what is shown is a parent putting on their oxygen mask before putting it on her child? What this rightly implies is the fact that you cannot help others if you are not okay. So consume nutritious food and drinks, as well as activities (including rest!) to keep healthy.